Self Discipline -Kids are NOT Born with it!
Jeanette Kasper © 2004
Thank goodness the Supreme Court of Canada ruled in favor of spanking. Most children, at times, will be so stubborn and self-centered that ONLY the thought of being spanked will gain their cooperation and teach them to apply self-discipline instead of facing outside discipline.
Most kids don't want to do their homework. It isn't fun. They don't want to take the time to pick up after themselves. Heck, parents don't either! We do it because we don't like the alternative of a messy, disorderly home. Kids don't want to do their chores. Very few people ENJOY cleaning toilets, washing windows, doing dishes, the laundry, the floors. Adults do it because they don't like the alternative.
As children, we only learn self-discipline because we don't want to face the discipline the adults in our lives mete out. Those of us who are over 30 years old can clearly remember doing our chores because we didn't want to be spanked. We remember buckling down and studying for our exams in high school because the alternative was unthinkable. We ate a healthful meal because the alternative was going to bed hungry.
Jeanette Kasper, author of Calm the Kids & Keep your Cool, says, "Today the schools can't discipline and parents don't know HOW to discipline, so children are learning NO SELF-DISCIPLINE."
As we grow older, we learn to do those things we don't want to do, because we want to achieve the end results-like doing our homework and studying gets us good grades and many doors of opportunity open when we graduate from Grade 12. Living in a tidy, clean house is more beneficial psychologically and physically than living in a dirty, messy house. Keeping a rein on our temper when we are with our friends, family, and driving is better than losing our temper and injuring relationships or ourselves (in the car). That's self-discipline.
As parents, we teach our children to apply SELF-discipline by applying outside discipline and consequences to them until they realize it's easier and better to simply do what they've been asked BEFORE the discipline. To gain your children's happy cooperation over regular issues follow the 5-Step Successful Discipline Rule Jeanette explains in Calm the Kids & Keep your Cool.
In those rarer instances when your children have been disciplined and are STILL refusing to cooperate, spanking is the last resort. Never spank in anger. Tell them the next consequence is a spanking. Spank with your hand, five times on the butt, hard! And NO, don't tell them it's going to hurt you more than it will hurt them!
As parents, we want our children to thrive as adults. The very best lesson we can teach them is self-discipline-the ability to follow through with something they don't like doing until they achieve the desired end result. With Self-Discipline our children will be able to maintain healthy eating habits, a personal exercise program, learn everything they want to learn, achieve every goal they want to achieve in their life. Discipline from us is essential-sometimes that means spanking.
Jeanette Kasper, a dynamic international trainer, teacher, and author, looks at how we can gain our children's happy cooperation and remain calm while we do! Calm the Kids & Keep your Cool is an audio program that gives the secrets, strategies, and skills for creating peace, harmony, and cooperation with our kids, from the easiest child to the most difficult, from ages 2 - 32!
Calm the Kids & Keep your Cool ISBN 0-9688009-3-9 5-CD or 6-cassette audio program $69.95 available at www.beyouinc.com
Calgary author Jeanette Kasper is an acclaimed professional speaker who's Canadian BEST SELLER, Anger is NOT an Emotion, is revolutionizing how we deal with others. This unique perspective on human behavior gives us an understanding of how people relate to each other that leads naturally to using the over 300 solutions Mrs. Kasper gives in her book.
As a best-selling author, international professional speaker, and syndicated columnist, Jeanette is always willing to answer your questions, give interviews, and do a training session with your company, association, or parenting group. Jeanette concentrates on helping others create harmonious relationships at work, home, and play.
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